Understanding School Breaks and Summer Vacation
When it comes to school breaks and summer vacation, good planning can make the difference between a peaceful season and one filled with misunderstandings. These extended times away from school require a unique level of coordination between co-parents.
Unlike regular weekly schedules, school breaks and summer vacation can disrupt routines. Without a plan, questions arise quickly: Who takes the children during winter break? What happens when camp schedules don’t align? Who coordinates travel?
Start with the School Calendar
Start by looking at the school calendar together. Flag all breaks, winter, spring, summer, and long weekends. Discuss what your ideal schedule would be, and then explore compromises that honor both parents’ time and responsibilities.
Winter break and summer can be especially complex. Dividing up the Christmas holiday is especially tricky for many familiCamps, vacations, and childcare needs often vary from week to week. It can be helpful to divide the summer into blocks, such as by weeks or alternating two-week periods, so that each parent has meaningful, uninterrupted time.
Consider the Children’s Needs and Preferences
Also consider the children’s preferences and needs. Do they want to attend a specific camp? Do they prefer shorter transitions or longer stretches in one home during the summer? Keeping their voices in mind helps everyone feel more grounded and heard.
If travel is involved, whether to visit family, explore new places, or take a staycation, be clear about dates, itineraries, and expectations. Who pays? Who books? What contact will the other parent have during the trip? This avoids conflict down the line.
Put Your Plans in Writing
Put your agreement in writing. It doesn’t have to be overly formal, but it should be clear and accessible to both parents. That way, if memories differ later, you have something to refer to.
Planning school breaks and summer vacation together sends a powerful message: “We’re still a team when it comes to our kids.” It turns what could be a point of conflict into an opportunity to collaborate and gives your children the security of knowing what’s coming next.
